The Perfect Father

Bianca Kesha - The Perfect Father

No human is perfect. As much as we strive for perfection in ourselves and seek perfection in others, we all make mistakes and have flaws. This includes our parent(s)/caregiver(s). As children we viewed our parent(s)/caregiver(s) as roles models, heroes, protectors, carers, wise, and at times perfect or invincible. As children we might have believed it was impossible for our parent(s)/caregiver(s) to hurt us. However, I am sure for those reading this you have experienced hurt, disappointment, rejection, abandonment, and other painful feelings from your parent(s)/caregiver(s), whether it was intentional or unintentionally. This occurs because their imperfect not because you are unloveable or they lack love for you.

 As we grow older we make our own mistakes and recognize our own flaws. As a result, we realize that our parent/caregiver are not perfect. Our interaction changes  with our parent(s)/caregiver(s) and we recognize they cannot give us everything we need. However, we can appreciate them for who they are and the gift they have been in our lives.

 Thankfully we have a perfect Heavenly Father who meets all our needs and is ALWAYS available, showering us with unfailing LOVE, GOODNESS and protecting us from harm. This view of God might be a hard pill to swallow, if you have viewed God as angry and one who punishes. I would like you to ponder this thought. With all the wrong you have done in your life and to others, if God was a punishing angry God surely you will be experiencing total unhappiness and misfortune in your life. If you are reading this you are blessed with the ability to read and have access to a computer. Does that sound like a punishing angry God, knowing the things that you have done in your life?

 Below I have written a few statements along with bibles verses highlighting God’s love for his children and his characteristics. Maybe you need a reminder of his love, maybe you heart will soften, or maybe you will share this with a loved one. Whatever the reason I know you will be changed either today or in the future. I hope this provides you with further strength encouragement, and hope.

Love

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Christian Contentment

I recently read a book called “The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment” by Jeremiah Burroughs. This is a powerful book, that helps a Christian understand how to be content regardless of their circumstances. As mention by Paul in Philippians 4:11-12 he was content in a low or a high position. “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want” (NIV). I have wondered how this was possible. How could you possibly be content when you are hunger?

This book provides an understanding of why a Christian should be content no matter the circumstances and how a Christian can be content. I will share some of the points that spoke to me personally. However I do recommend reading the book to develop further understanding of Christian contentment.

Burroughs states “Christian contentment is that sweet, inward, quiet, gracious frame of spirit, which freely submits to and delights in God’s wise and fatherly disposal in every condition” (p. 19).

  • A Christian can be content because they are in covenant with God. God’s promises are true. He is not a man, therefore, He cannot lie. In other words as a Christian we are covered!
  • God’s mercy is greater than our affliction. The Grace of God and salvation alone is greater than any affliction! Think about God’s mercy that are new each day! This far outweighs your affliction.
  • Jesus takes the venom out of affliction. Therefore, all the affliction a Christian encounters is less impactful because of the sacrifice Jesus made.
  • A Christian is content because they can read the Bible as an inheritances, whilst a carnal heart reads the Bible as stories.
  • If you can only be content with desires and not the present when will you be content?
  • When you are content you no longer chase after people, places or things thinking they will bring contentment.
  • There is beauty and strength in the grace of contentment. A Christian content in affliction is beauty, because it shows the glory of God.
  • A heart that is not content is able to be tempted. A discontented Christian may search for people, places, or things they feel will bring contentment.
  • Burroughs states “When we are strangers to our own hearts we are powerfully discontented, and do not know how to quiet ourselves, because we do not know wherein the disquiet lies, but if we are very well versed in our own hearts, when anything happens to unsettle us, we soon find out the cause of it, and so quickly become quiet” (p. 100).
  • Contentment is when a Christian merges their will with God’s will.
  • Unthankfulness is a discontented heart. It equates to saying, all that God has given me is worthless. Consequently, continually being thankful brings contentment.
  • A discontented Christian can become envious of what others have.
  • A Christian can only receive from God when they are quiet and resting. For example, if a child is having a tantrum, the parent can only effectively speak to the child when they calm down. A Christians’s strength is to sit still.

Steps to Contentment

  1.  Make a list of God’s mercy and a list of your affliction. Compare the lit and not your thoughts
  2. Focus on being thankful for the next 30 days and write down what you are thankful for.
  3. Focus on being mindful, by enjoying the present moment you are in, not the next 10 minutes or the day’s agenda.

I pray this helps you on your journey of contentment, where joy is overflowing. I am on this same journey with you!

Love

Bianca

Ephesians Prayer for Yourself and Others

In Ephesians 3:16-21 there is a powerful prayer that Paul prays to the Church in Ephesus. The emphasis of this prayer is about being rooted and ground in God’s Love and to know the fullness of God. This is a powerful prayer to pray for others and yourself. I have slightly paraphrased this prayer so that you can pray over yourself and for others. In addition I have used two bible versions: New International Version and Amplified.

Dear Dad/Father/Heavenly Father/Father God
I pray that out of your glorious riches you may strengthen me with power through your Spirit in my inner being, so that Christ may dwell in my heart through faith. And I pray that, being rooted and established in your love for me, I  may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ for me, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that I may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of you God. Now to you father, who is able to do immeasurably more than all I ask or imagine, according to your power that is at work within me, to you God, be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen. (Ephesians 3:16-21 NIV)

Dear Dad/Father/Heavenly Father/Father God
I pray that out of your glorious riches you may strengthen (person/s name/s) with power through your Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in her/his/their heart/s through faith. And I pray that (person/s name/s) being rooted and established in your love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know your love that surpasses knowledge—that (person/s name/s) may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within (person/s name/s) to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen. (Ephesians 3:16-21 NIV)

Dear Dad/Father/Heavenly Father/Father God
May You grant me out of the rich treasury of Your glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in the inner man by the [Holy] Spirit [Himself indwelling your innermost being and personality]. May Christ through my faith [actually] dwell (settle down, abide, make His permanent home) in my heart! May I be rooted deep in love and founded securely on love, That I may have the power and be strong to apprehend and grasp with all the saints [God’s devoted people, the experience of God’s love] what is the breadth and length and height and depth [of it]; [That I may really come] to know [practically, through experience for myself] the love of Christ, which far surpasses mere knowledge [without experience]; that I may be filled [through all my being] unto all the fullness of God [may have the richest measure of the divine Presence, and become a body wholly filled and flooded with God Himself]! Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within me, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that I [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond my highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]– To Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever. Amen (so be it). (Ephesians 3:16-21 AMP)

Dear Dad//Father/Heavenly Father/Father God
May You grant (person/s name/s) out of the rich treasury of Your glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in the inner man by the [Holy] Spirit [Himself indwelling your innermost being and personality]. May Christ through (person/s name/s) faith [actually] dwell (settle down, abide, make His permanent home) in (person/s name/s) heart/s! May (person/s name/s) be rooted deep in love and founded securely on love, That (person/s name/s) may have the power and be strong to apprehend and grasp with all the saints [God’s devoted people, the experience of that love] what is the breadth and length and height and depth [of it]; [That (person/s name/s) may really come] to know [practically, through experience for herself/himself/themselves] the love of Christ, which far surpasses mere knowledge [without experience]; that she/he/they may be filled [through all your being] unto all the fullness of God [may have the richest measure of the divine Presence, and become a body wholly filled and flooded with God Himself]! Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within (person/s name/s), is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that he/she/they [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond her/his/their highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]– To God be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever. Amen (so be it). (Ephesians 3:16-21 AMP)